🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #113

I am a widower or divorcee (duda) and have attended a pre-marriage course before. Do I need to attend again?

It depends on state rules, so ask the state Islamic religious affairs office before making your marriage application. Some places accept an old certificate, and some may ask for a course or additional session. Even if it is not required, consider attending again. A second marriage brings its own challenges: children from the earlier marriage, a former spouse, ongoing maintenance and old wounds. A course or counselling session can help you both discuss these openly. Make past experience a lesson, not a burden carried into the new home. See remarriage.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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