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So that husbands and wives are knowledgeable as Muslims — understanding the rights, responsibilities, adab and rulings of marriage, including polygyny, guided by the Qur'an and Sunnah. The law is explained for Malaysia first, then ASEAN and Saudi Arabia & the Middle East.

Start learning → Rights of husband & wife Q&A

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Perjalanan

Perjalanan perkahwinan, dari bersedia hingga pusaka

1BersediaIlmu & kriteria
2KhitbahMeminang & bertunang
3AkadWali, saksi, mahar
4Rumah tanggaHak & nafkah
5PoligamiSyarat & keadilan
6KonflikHakam & sulh
7Cerai & idahTalak, idah, rujuk
8PusakaFaraid & wasiat

Learn first

Knowledge of married life is part of personal religious obligation (fardu ain). Begin with the short course, then choose a topic.

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Husband's short course

10 lessons every husband must know.

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Wife's short course

10 lessons every wife must know.

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Rights of husband & wife

The rights and duties of both parties, with evidence.

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Everyday adab

Mu'asyarah bil-ma'ruf — everyday adab.

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Educating the family

Protect yourselves and your families (66:6).

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Du'a & prayer

Spiritual provision for husband and wife.

The marriage journey

From getting ready to a fourth wife — and what happens if it ends. Choose where you are now.

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Getting readyKnowledge & criteria
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Khitbah (proposal)Proposal & engagement
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Akad (marriage contract)Wali, witnesses, mahr
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Rumah tanggaRights & maintenance
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PoligamiConditions & justice
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ConflictArbitration (hakam) & reconciliation (sulh)
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Divorce & ʿiddahTalaq, ʿiddah, reconciliation (rujuk)
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InheritanceFaraid & wills
💬 550 questions answered
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Mencari Ketenangan Dunia
A short guide to marriage — one wife or more, conflict and afterwards. Download PDF →

Who are you? See all pathways →

💍Marrying for the first time Start with the step-by-step guide, then the document checklist. 🧮A husband considering polygyny Start with the calculator — be honest about the numbers — then Rulings and Conditions. 🛡An existing wife Your right to be heard, and what to bring to court. 💬A prospective second wife Seven things before you say yes. Written to protect you. 🌐I am outside Malaysia Indonesia, Singapore, Brunei, Saudi Arabia, the Gulf and elsewhere — the law of your country.

Polygyny: the basics you need to understand

1,609polygynous marriages, 2023Peninsular + Sabah · down ~47% from 3,064 (2019) · JKSM via the Ministry of Religious Affairs
> 1/3permohonan ditolaklebih satu pertiga permohonan ditolak Mahkamah Syariah (2019–2023) — The Straits Times, 20 Apr 2024
8,808permohonan diluluskanseluruh negara, 2010–2016 (jawapan bertulis Parlimen, dilaporkan Malay Mail 20 Mac 2017)
RM1,000denda maksimum · kebanyakan negeriatau 6 bulan penjara, poligami tanpa kebenaran (WP s.123; Selangor s.124) — Sarawak RM3,000 atau 2 tahun (s.127)

The source of every figure is given in its box · see Statistics and the table of 14 state laws

Read this first

Court permission comes before the akad

Polygyny in Malaysia requires the prior written permission of the Syariah Court. Marrying without it is an offence under state enactments — even if the marriage is valid in Islamic law.

Islamic Family Law Enactment · every state
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s.23 setiap enakmen negeri · Sarawak: s.21

Four conditions — all of them, not just one

Mahkamah Syariah memberi kebenaran hanya jika berpuas hati dengan keempat-empat perkara ini. Satu gagal, permohonan gagal.

Patut atau perlu1Financial ability2Ability to treat wives equally3No darar syarie (harm)4 COURT PERMISSION
  1. 1Just or necessaryThe proposed marriage is just or necessary.
  2. 2Financial abilityThe applicant has the means to provide.
  3. 3Ability to treat wives equallyThe applicant is able to accord equal treatment to all his wives as required by Hukum Syarak.
  4. 4No darar syarie (harm)The proposed marriage will not cause darar syarie (harm) to the existing wife.
Sumber: s.23 Enakmen / Akta Undang-Undang Keluarga Islam negeri-negeri; Sarawak: s.21 Ordinan Undang-Undang Keluarga Islam 2001.
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Process

Seven steps, in the right order

Four of them take place in court. The marriage comes only after permission.

Assess yourself firstFinancial ability, existing dependants, and the real reason — the calculator and the four conditions.
Gather documentsFinancial statements, existing marriage certificate, details of dependants and the existing wife's address.
File the applicationCourtTo your state's Syariah High Court (JKSM Practice Direction No. 14/2006) — not merely the religious affairs office.
Existing wife is summonedCourtShe has the right to attend and be heard; the prospective wife and her wali (guardian) may also be summoned.
The judge assesses four conditionsCourtJust or necessary · ability · justice · no harm recognised by Syariah law (darar syarie). All must be met.
DecisionCourtGranted, or refused. The decision may be appealed under the state Syariah court procedure.
Only then marry and registerAfter permissionWith the permission order: marriage application, akad, and registration of the marriage at the religious office.
The general form is the same in all states; forms and fees differ — see States.

All sections

📖 Rulings on polygynyEvidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah, conditions, and common misconceptions.🧮 Affordability calculatorWork out income, existing commitments, and the cost of a second household.🗺 State laws13 states + Federal Territories — 14 Islamic family laws.🌐 Choose a countryMalaysia, ASEAN, Saudi Arabia & the Middle East — and other countries.📝 Procedure & paperworkFirst marriage and polygyny applications, step by step.✈ Marriage abroad & registrationRecognition, registration in Malaysia, and the risks to understand.🌱 Wisdom & criticismWhat the texts say, and what they do not.🔑 Age, wali & mahrThree things that decide whether a marriage can take place.⚖ FaraidThe wife's share is divided, not multiplied — and what can be planned.🚪 If it does not work outTalaq, fasakh, taʿliq, khulʿ — the lawful ways out, and the rights that follow.👶 ChildrenLineage, maintenance, custody — and the true measure of fairness.💰 Two-household financesTakaful, wills, gifts (hibah), savings — ten years from now.📊 StatisticsOfficial figures on polygyny applications and registrations — in charts.👥 People & eventsWell-known individuals and notable events in polygyny — sourced.❓ FAQShort answers to the most frequently asked questions.💬 Ask a questionSend your question — it will be answered and published if suitable.

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