🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #114

How do I invite my fiancé to go through pre-marriage counselling without them feeling offended?

Offer it as an investment in your shared future, not as a sign that something is wrong. Many people think counselling is only for couples with problems. In fact, sessions before marriage help you discuss hard things with the help of a neutral third person. Say: ‘I want us to start strong. Can we try two sessions together?’ Let your fiancé choose the counsellor or a suitable time so they own the decision too. The family counselling unit at the state Islamic religious affairs department and LPPKN are among the places you can contact. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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