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Our akad is small and limited. How do I turn away relatives who want to come without hurting them?

Explain the limit early and equally to everyone, so no one thinks they alone were not invited. Use a true and brief reason, for example: ‘Space at the mosque is limited, so the akad is only for close family. We will hold a small meal later.’ Avoid last-minute exceptions; one exception opens the door to others. Ask your parents to pass the same message to the relatives on their side. For those who feel hurt, send a personal message after the ceremony with photos and thanks for their prayers. See a wedding within your means.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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