The family wants a big reception but we cannot afford it. How do we avoid going into debt to marry?

A blessed marriage begins with moderation, not with debt that weighs down the first years of married life. The reception is only one day; the marriage is for life, so do not sacrifice long-term peace for one day's festivity. Discuss the real budget with your families respectfully, and explain that avoiding debt is a wise beginning. A simple walimah full of gratitude is better than a lavish reception that leaves stress behind. Focus spending on things that last, not on what people or social media think. If the family insists, ask someone they respect to help explain it. See family finances.