🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #136

Every time we fight, my spouse brings up the word divorce. How do I deal with this?

Bringing up divorce every time you are angry is a destructive habit, because it plants a deep sense of insecurity in the relationship. The word, even when said without intention, hurts and can carry serious legal consequences. When you are calm, discuss and agree to take the word divorce out of every argument: ‘Whatever we fight about, let's not use divorce as a weapon.’ If you are the one who usually brings it up, realise that it erodes your spouse's trust. Deal with the real cause of the anger instead of throwing out the word divorce. If you are unsure about the effect of pronouncing talaq in a particular situation, refer to the religious affairs office for a correct understanding. See trials in a marriage.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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