My spouse demands all my phone and account passwords in the name of love. Should I give them?

Transparency given willingly is different from passwords demanded as a condition of control. Couples who trust each other are usually open of their own accord, not because every account is checked. A blanket demand for every password is often a sign of unhealthy jealousy, and it rarely puts suspicion to rest; it tends to feed it. Discuss what your spouse is really afraid of, and look for ways to build trust, not surveillance. Reasonable transparency can be agreed together without one of you feeling trapped. If this demand comes with threats, restrictions or fear, it has become coercive control: contact Talian Kasih 15999 for advice, and the police on 999 if you are in danger. See communication & emotions.