Every time we talk it gets heated. Can I write my spouse a letter instead?

Writing a letter can be a good path when face-to-face conversation heats up too quickly. Writing gives you room to choose your words carefully and gives your spouse room to read without reacting straight away. Write your feelings and hopes honestly but gently, avoiding accusations and old grievances. Begin by expressing your love and your intention to make things right, not a list of faults. End with an invitation to talk calmly after they have read it. A letter is not a permanent substitute for conversation, but a bridge to starting one. Avoid sending a letter written in anger; keep it and reread it the next day before giving it. See ways to win hearts.