🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #40

Is there a checklist to know whether I am ready to marry?

Yes — use this short checklist covering religion, knowledge, emotions, health, finances and family.
Religion: prayers kept, intention for the sake of Allah. Knowledge: understand the pillars of marriage, the rights of husband and wife, the fiqh of menstruation and the obligatory bath, the basics of talaq. Emotions: able to control anger, discuss and apologise. Health: HIV screening (required by the states), consider thalassaemia. Finances: income for maintenance, emergency savings, debts under control. Family: parents' blessing, the wali's consent. Administration: pre-marriage course certificate, identity documents. The full list is in the Guide and Procedure.

Sources

Sahih al-Bukhari 5066Sunan Ibn Majah 224 (the first sentence graded sahih by al-Albani; the full report is da'if)Surah at-Tahrim 66:6

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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