My spouse likes to quote religious texts to win arguments. Is that right?

Using religious texts as a weapon to win goes against the very purpose of religion, which is to soften hearts. Religious evidence should guide both of you towards justice and love, not force one side to submit in a quarrel. If this happens, avoid answering with counter-quotes; that turns the home into a debating arena. Say calmly: ‘I want us to understand each other first, not find out who wins.’ Bring the issue back to shared principles, and if you need a correct understanding of the ruling, consult a knowledgeable person together, rather than each bringing your own interpretation. Religion rightly understood brings peace, not more wounds. See communication & emotions.