My spouse's family is well off and I feel pressured to live at their level. What should I do?

You are not bound to live at anyone's level; what matters is keeping your dignity and living calmly within your own means. This pressure often comes from our own assumptions more than from their actual expectations. Do not borrow or overspend in order to be accepted; acceptance that is bought does not last. Focus on being a son- or daughter-in-law or in-law of good character, who helps and keeps up family ties, because that is what is remembered. If your spouse understands, face this pressure as a team. Be grateful for your situation in front of them without pretending. Honour comes from character, not from matching wealth. See in-laws.

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