🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #315

How do we set healthy boundaries with my in-laws from early in the marriage without being rude?

Good boundaries with in-laws are built with respect and love from the start, so that they protect the marriage without cutting family ties. Begin by openly appreciating their kindness and help, because a warm relationship makes boundaries easier to accept. First decide together with your spouse what you want to handle yourselves as a new family. Let each of you deal with your own parents when sensitive issues come up, so that no one feels attacked. Express your needs gently, not as warnings. Boundaries are not a rejection of family, but a way to give a new household room to take root. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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