🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #193

I am starting to get bored with the routine of marriage. How can I refresh it without looking elsewhere?

Boredom is a signal to renew the relationship, not to look for a replacement. Seeking excitement outside only moves the problem and adds sin; the solution lies within the home. Break the routine with new activities, new places, or new ways of spending time together. Bring back the small things that were fun early in your marriage. Talk honestly with your spouse about this boredom so the two of you change it together. Guard your heart with worship so your gaze does not wander. If the boredom persists and is worrying, discuss it together or get counselling. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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