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My mother-in-law is pressing me to do my confinement in a particular way that I am not comfortable with. How do I handle it?

Appreciate your mother-in-law's good intentions, which are usually to look after you, but the final decision about your body and health remains with you and your husband. Listen politely to her advice first before deciding; some of it may be useful. For practices you are uncomfortable with or unsure are safe, consult a doctor and rely on their advice. Ask your husband to be the go-between who gently conveys the decision to his mother, so you are not seen as rude. Avoid open quarrels; find a middle way that respects their feelings without harming you. Still thank them for their concern. See in-laws.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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