People are spreading slander about me as a second wife. How do I keep my dignity without retaliating?

Dignified silence and good character usually answer slander more effectively than an open quarrel. Responding to every accusation only prolongs the story and feeds those who love to gossip. Carry on living well, and let your actions disprove the slander on their own. If the slander touches on an important matter that needs correcting, explain calmly to the people who have a right to know, not to everyone. Do not answer slander with slander. If it becomes slander that harms your reputation or safety, you can seek advice about legal protection. Leave what is in people's hearts to Allah, and guard your own tongue. See relations between co-wives.

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