I realise I like to 'win' every discussion with my wife. How do I lead without ego?

Leadership driven by ego chases victory, while healthy leadership chases the family's good. When you must win every discussion, your wife learns to keep quiet, not to share, and you lose her valuable perspective. Ask yourself before digging in: is this about the truth, or just about my ego? Train yourself to admit when your wife's view is better, and thank her for it. The aim of a discussion is the best decision, not proving who is cleverer. A humble leader draws honesty from the family. Start with one discussion this week in which you listen more than you speak. See communication & emotions.

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