I get anxious and jealous every time my spouse is slow to reply to my messages. How do I calm myself?

A slow reply usually means busy, not betrayal, so do not let your mind build a terrible story. An anxious heart tends to fill the silence with the worst interpretation. Remind yourself that no one can reply every second, and that is normal. Avoid sending message after message or demanding reports, because it suffocates and starts quarrels. If you genuinely need set times to be in touch, discuss it kindly as a shared need, not as a condition. Fill the waiting time with something beneficial. Trust means giving space without assuming the worst. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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