I am jealous because my spouse seems to put their mother and siblings before me. What should I do?

The feeling of being sidelined needs to be heard, but devotion to family is not a rival to their love for you. Your spouse can love their parents and you at the same time; the two are not a cake to be fought over. Avoid forcing your spouse to choose, because that puts them in a painful position. Instead, state your needs specifically: ‘I hope we also have time just the two of us every week.’ Find a fair balance between your extended family and your own small family. Strengthen your ties with their family so you feel part of it, not in competition. If the imbalance continues, discuss it together calmly. See communication & emotions.

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