⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #122

Can I praise one wife or compare her in front of the other?

Comparing a wife with her co-wife, let alone praising one in front of the other, wounds the heart and ignites jealousy. Every wife wants to feel valued for herself, not measured against someone else. Keep your particular praise for each wife in private, and do not complain about one to the other. Also avoid carrying the secrets of one home to the other. Guard your tongue as part of justice, because the wound of words is sometimes worse than matters of the rota. Treat each one as if she were the wife you honour most. See household system.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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