⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #143

My wife says she will hurt herself if I marry again. What should I do?

Take those words seriously and put her safety first; the polygyny matter must stop for now. If she is in danger right now, call the police on 999 immediately. For support and advice, contact Talian Kasih 15999. Do not leave her alone while she is very distressed, and remove anything that could be dangerous. Listen without arguing and without trying to persuade her about polygyny. Take her to see a doctor or mental health professional as soon as possible. Words like these are a sign of pain that needs treatment, not a ploy to be won. Only when she is stable, and with professional support, should the future of the marriage be discussed again. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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