⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #141

The woman I want as my second wife is still in the middle of divorcing her husband. Can I file the application now?

It is not right; as long as she is still someone's wife or in her iddah (waiting period), she may not be openly proposed to, let alone made the basis of a polygyny application. Approaching a woman who is still bound in marriage can make another couple's marriage crack further. Let the process finish without your interference. Only after a lawful divorce and the end of her iddah can a proposal be discussed honourably through her wali. Use this time to assess your own readiness and talk with your wife. If your relationship with her now has already crossed the limits, stop that first. See etiquette of proposing.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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