⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #125

Can I take one wife on holiday while the other does not go?

Taking one wife on holiday while the other stays behind can create a sense of unfairness if it is done without consideration and without making it up. It is encouraged to draw lots between wives when travelling so that the choice is not seen as favouritism. If you take one, consider taking the other on a different occasion, or explain the reason for the need kindly. Avoid making holidays a regular gift for a favourite wife only. For questions about the rota (turn of nights) while travelling, refer to the religious affairs office, because there are detailed rules. Make every decision with the intention that no heart is hurt. See the rota in practice.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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