Bolehkah seorang bapa menawarkan anak perempuannya kepada lelaki yang soleh?

Boleh, malah ia amalan para sahabat dan disebut dalam al-Quran. Umar al-Khattab r.a., selepas Hafsah menjadi balu, menawarkannya kepada Uthman dan kemudian Abu Bakar r.a., sebelum akhirnya Nabi ﷺ meminangnya; kisah ini diriwayatkan oleh al-Bukhari. Ayah dua wanita Madyan juga menawarkan anaknya kepada Nabi Musa a.s. Tawaran ini hanyalah cadangan; anak perempuan tetap berhak memberi persetujuan, dan lelaki itu berhak menolak dengan baik. Gunakan pendekatan yang tidak memalukan, contohnya melalui sahabat atau orang tengah. Pilih berdasarkan agama dan akhlak, seperti anjuran Nabi ﷺ. Lihat kriteria .

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💍 Khitbah & pertunangan · #21

May a father offer his daughter in marriage to a righteous man?

Yes, and it was even the practice of the Companions and is mentioned in the Qur'an.
Umar al-Khattab r.a., after Hafsah was widowed, offered her to Uthman and then Abu Bakar r.a., before the Prophet ﷺ finally proposed to her; this account is narrated by al-Bukhari. The father of the two women of Madyan also offered his daughter to the Prophet Musa a.s. Such an offer is only a suggestion; the daughter still has the right to give her consent, and the man has the right to decline kindly. Use an approach that causes no embarrassment, for example through a friend or an intermediary. Choose on the basis of religion and character, as the Prophet ﷺ advised. See criteria.

Sumber

Surah al-Qasas 28:27Narrated by al-Bukhari (the account of Umar offering Hafsah)Sunan at-Tirmidhi 1084 (hasan)

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