💍 Khitbah & pertunangan · #1
What does khitbah (proposal) mean and is it obligatory before marriage?
Khitbah is a man's request to marry a woman, and it is not a pillar or a condition for a valid marriage.
In fiqh terms, khitbah is only a promise to marry, not a contract. So a marriage is still valid even without a proposal or engagement ceremony. But khitbah is prescribed because it gives both parties and their families room to get to know each other, ask questions, pray istikharah and agree calmly before the contract. The Qur'an mentions khitbah directly in Surah al-Baqarah 2:235, and the Prophet ﷺ forbade a man to propose over his brother's proposal, which shows that khitbah is a practice recognised by the Shariah. After the engagement, the couple are still ajnabi (not mahram) to each other until the contract is pronounced. See also khitbah and glossary.
In fiqh terms, khitbah is only a promise to marry, not a contract. So a marriage is still valid even without a proposal or engagement ceremony. But khitbah is prescribed because it gives both parties and their families room to get to know each other, ask questions, pray istikharah and agree calmly before the contract. The Qur'an mentions khitbah directly in Surah al-Baqarah 2:235, and the Prophet ﷺ forbade a man to propose over his brother's proposal, which shows that khitbah is a practice recognised by the Shariah. After the engagement, the couple are still ajnabi (not mahram) to each other until the contract is pronounced. See also khitbah and glossary.
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Surah al-Baqarah 2:235Sahih al-Bukhari 5142Sahih Muslim 1412