🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #6
What is the sign that an istikharah about a spouse has been answered? Must I wait for a dream?
There is no requirement to dream; the answer to istikharah is usually seen in whether the matter is made easy or blocked .
The istikharah supplication itself asks: if this matter is good, decree it and make it easy; if it is bad, turn it away from me and me from it. So after istikharah, carry on with your efforts as usual — if things go smoothly and the heart is at peace, that is a good sign; if it is blocked, accept it with contentment. Dreams may happen but they are not a required measure and cannot override the considerations of the Shariah and reason. Remember, sometimes we dislike a thing while it is good for us (al-Baqarah 2:216). Nor should istikharah be made an excuse to reject a good candidate without reasonable cause.
The istikharah supplication itself asks: if this matter is good, decree it and make it easy; if it is bad, turn it away from me and me from it. So after istikharah, carry on with your efforts as usual — if things go smoothly and the heart is at peace, that is a good sign; if it is blocked, accept it with contentment. Dreams may happen but they are not a required measure and cannot override the considerations of the Shariah and reason. Remember, sometimes we dislike a thing while it is good for us (al-Baqarah 2:216). Nor should istikharah be made an excuse to reject a good candidate without reasonable cause.
Sources
Sahih al-Bukhari 1166Surah al-Baqarah 2:216