⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #47

Is it wrong to take another wife merely because one is attracted to another woman?

Being attracted to another woman is not a sin if channelled lawfully, but an intention driven purely by desire, without preparation to be just and responsible, carries a great risk of leading to injustice.
Surah an-Nisa' verse 3 permits marrying "women who please you", so the attraction itself is not condemned, but it is not a sufficient reason. Yet the same verse puts justice first, and the Prophet's ﷺ warning about a husband who inclines to one wife (Sunan Abu Dawud 2133, sahih) shows a heavy reckoning. A man must assess his financial means, time, emotions and the effect on his existing wife and children. If he is not yet able, guarding his gaze and chastity is the safer path. See Fiqh of polygyny and Criteria.

Sources

Surah an-Nisa' 4:3Sunan Abu Dawud 2133 (sahih)Surah an-Nur 24:30

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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