Isteri pertama sudah berusia dan tidak mahu lagi giliran. Bolehkah suami berhenti bermalam di rumahnya?

Jika isteri sendiri rela menggugurkan gilirannya, suami boleh mengikut kehendaknya; tetapi tanggungjawab nafkah, layanan baik dan ziarah tetap berterusan. Saudah RA, ketika usianya meningkat, memberikan gilirannya kepada Aisyah RA dan kekal sebagai isteri Nabi ﷺ (riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim). Surah an-Nisa' 4:128 menyebut perdamaian dengan menggugurkan sebahagian hak adalah lebih baik. Namun kerelaan mesti datang daripada isteri, bukan desakan suami. Dia juga berhak menarik balik dan meminta gilirannya semula pada bila-bila masa. Sebaiknya suami terus mengunjunginya dan memastikan dia tidak merasa terbuang. Lihat Fiqh poligami .

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⚖️ Poligami: hukum & keadilan · #48

The first wife is older and no longer wants her turn. May the husband stop spending nights at her house?

If the wife herself willingly gives up her turn, the husband may go along with her wish; but the responsibility for maintenance, kind treatment and visits continues.
Sawdah RA, as she grew older, gave her turn to Aisyah RA and remained a wife of the Prophet ﷺ (narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim). Surah an-Nisa' 4:128 says that reconciliation by giving up part of one's rights is better. But the willingness must come from the wife, not from the husband's pressure. She also has the right to withdraw and ask for her turn back at any time. The husband should keep visiting her and make sure she does not feel cast aside. See Fiqh of polygyny.

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Surah an-Nisa' 4:128Sahih al-Bukhari — the story of SawdahSahih Muslim — the story of Sawdah

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