I found my spouse exchanging affectionate messages online with someone who is not a mahram. How do I raise it?

Ongoing affectionate conversation with a non-mahram is a door to temptation (fitnah) that must be closed, even if nothing has happened physically. Calm yourself first so that your words do not turn into an accusation that sets off a quarrel. Choose a quiet time and show honestly what you are worried about. Say how it affects your heart, for example: ‘I feel distant when I see this.’ Listen to their explanation without judging straight away, but set a clear boundary that such a relationship is not healthy for a marriage. If it continues or you are at a loss, get help from a family counsellor. Protect your spouse's dignity by not exposing it to others. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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