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I found out my spouse is addicted to pornography and I feel betrayed. How do we repair the relationship?

The hurt you feel is valid; many spouses regard pornography addiction as a form of betrayal. Acknowledge that feeling without blaming your body or your self-worth, because the problem lies in the addiction, not in any lack in you. To recover, your spouse needs to be honest and work to stop, usually with the help of an experienced counsellor. Trust is rebuilt through consistent transparency, not promises alone. Give your feelings room and do not rush to pretend everything has healed. Keep your relationship with Allah as a source of calm. See couples counselling.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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