🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #169

I feel ashamed to face people because my spouse was unfaithful. How do I cope?

The shame of betrayal belongs to the one who committed it, not to you, so you do not need to carry shame for a sin that is not yours. Society's views do hurt, but they do not decide your worth before Allah. You are not obliged to explain your marriage to anyone; one short, polite answer is enough for those who ask. Choose to stay close to people who support you, not those who judge or spread the story. Keep up your worship and your self-respect, because a person's honour lies in their taqwa (God-consciousness), not in what their spouse did. If the shame is paralysing you, talk to a counsellor. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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