🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #162

My husband wants me to move close to his first wife's home, but I am not comfortable. Can I refuse?

You are entitled to a home that protects your comfort and dignity, so your concerns about the location deserve to be heard. State the real reason for your discomfort, whether privacy, frequent encounters or feeling pressured, so it can be weighed honestly. Listen to your husband's reasons too; it may be a matter of cost or convenience in caring for everyone. Find a middle way that protects your comfort without wronging the other side. Decisions about where to live are best reached through discussion, not one-sided pressure. If there is no agreement and it affects your rights, a sulh officer at the Syariah Court can help weigh the matter. Comfort at home matters for the peace of the whole family. See relationships between co-wives.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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