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🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #141

Even on my turn, my husband is busy and we rarely talk. What should I do?

A turn is not just physical presence; it is also a right to attention and meaningful conversation. A tired husband easily spends the night of the turn on his phone or asleep, while you have been waiting all week. Discuss this at a time when you are not angry, and state your need calmly, for example: ‘I miss talking with you, not just having you here.’ Suggest one small habit, such as chatting without phones after dinner. If he remains neglectful after being asked many times, consider the advice of a family counsellor. Attention given willingly is worth more than attention demanded through quarrels. See relationships between co-wives.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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