How do I know when my sadness over having a co-wife has reached the point where I need to see a counsellor?

Consider professional help when sadness starts to interfere with your ability to function day to day, not only when it feels heavy. Signs to pay attention to include difficulty sleeping or oversleeping for a long time, loss of appetite, being unable to manage the children or work, withdrawing from everyone, or feeling hopeless. Seeing a counsellor is not a sign of weak faith or failure; it is like seeing a doctor for a wound that does not heal on its own. You can get family counselling services at the state Islamic religious affairs office or a health clinic. If you feel you can no longer bear it, get help immediately: contact Talian Kasih 15999, or the police on 999 if you are in danger. Asking for help early speeds up healing. See counselling.