🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #110

We once came close to divorce. How do we rebuild the confidence to stay together?

Nearly losing something can sometimes be the starting point for valuing it more deeply. Acknowledge that the two of you chose to stay together, and make that a new foundation. Discuss honestly what nearly brought the relationship down, and agree on changes so it does not happen again. Rebuild trust through transparency and consistent actions, not just promises. Get help from a counsellor if the wounds are still deep. Give the healing process time and celebrate every small step of progress. Many marriages become stronger after going through a crisis. See counselling.

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