🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #186

After leaving a financially controlling relationship, how do I rebuild my confidence and stability?

Recovery takes time, and every small step towards independence is a success worth valuing. Start by rebuilding the basics: your own account, a simple budget, and a habit of saving, however little. Restore relationships with family and friends that were cut off, because their support strengthens you. Get counselling to restore the confidence that was worn away, because the effects of control do not disappear at once. The Credit Counselling and Debt Management Agency (AKPK) can help if you were left with a burden of debt. Slowly learn to trust your own judgement again. You have already shown strength by stepping out. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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