🧭 Region & Middle East · #90

Our daughter is being teased at her school abroad for wearing the tudung. How do we support her?

Put her feelings first, then act together with the school; do not let her bear the teasing alone. Listen to her whole story and praise her courage. Ask what hurts most, who is involved and what she wants you to do. Most schools have policies against bullying and discrimination, so record each incident and meet the teacher or principal calmly. Help her prepare a short, confident answer, for example: ‘This is my choice because of my religion.’ Introduce her to other Muslim friends so that she does not feel alone. If she wavers, do not force her or get angry; guide her with love. See Muslim minority families.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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