Our daughter has divorced and come home to live with us with our grandchildren. How can we support her?

Give her a calm home without interrogation, while helping her stand on her own feet again rather than taking over her life. She may be ashamed, tired and worried about the future. Avoid words like ‘Didn't I tell you so?’ Help with practical things, such as looking after the grandchildren while she goes to court or to work, but let her remain the mother who makes decisions for her children. Discuss expenses and house rules together so that no unspoken sense of burden builds up. Protect the grandchildren's relationship with their father, even if you are disappointed in that son-in-law. See also single mother support.