🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #258

My wife is exhausted from caring for the baby at night during confinement. How can I share the load?

Sharing night-time baby care is one of the most meaningful ways a husband can help during the confinement period. Even if your wife is breastfeeding, you can get up to change nappies, burp the baby and settle it back to sleep so she can sleep longer. Arrange reasonable turns according to work commitments the next day, and take care of breakfast or housework in the morning. The Prophet ﷺ himself helped his family at home, so helping does not lower anyone. Lack of sleep makes couples quick to quarrel, so the more you share, the calmer the atmosphere. Restoring your wife's energy is part of looking after her health. See responsibilities of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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