Does a happy marriage mean never fighting or facing problems?

A happy marriage is not one without problems, but one that faces problems together well. Every couple will disagree because they are two different people; what makes the difference is how they handle it. Learn to disagree respectfully: focus on the issue, not the person, and make up quickly. Do not treat every disagreement as a sign that the marriage has failed. Allah tests all believers, and trials faced together can draw you closer. Judge the health of your marriage by how you recover after conflict, not by the absence of conflict. Keep building your skills in solving problems together. See marriage check-up.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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