🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #163

Our conversations are now only about bills and the children. How can we talk about our feelings and ourselves again?

A marriage that only talks about tasks gradually feels like a management partnership, not a romance. Household matters are necessary, but set aside a little time for deeper questions. Try asking about things outside the routine: ‘What made you happiest this week?’ or ‘Is there an old dream you still hold on to?’ Share about yourself too, not just ask questions. Avoid slipping household matters into these heart-to-heart talks. Slowly you will get to know again the person beside you, not just a partner in running the house. See communication & emotions.

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