🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #161

Our whole day is filled with the children. How can we find time for the two of us after they are asleep?

The time after the children are asleep is the most precious chance for husband and wife to meet again as a couple, not only as parents. The temptation is to collapse with exhaustion or escape into your phones. Choose a few nights a week to sit together, even briefly: drink tea, talk, or simply rest shoulder to shoulder. Finish urgent housework earlier so that this time is not interrupted. It need not be long; what matters is that it is regular and not stolen by screens. Couples who stay connected as lovers are stronger in facing the tiredness of raising children. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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