How do I support a spouse trying to recover from addiction without becoming an enabler?

Supporting recovery means standing by your spouse but no longer shielding them from the consequences of their own actions. Paying all their debts, covering up their mistakes, or lying on their behalf actually slows recovery. Instead, encourage them to get professional treatment and go with them to counselling sessions or a rehabilitation centre. Set clear expectations: you support their effort to get well, not fund their addiction. Celebrate every small step forward, but do not pretend everything is fine when it is not. Look after your own and your children's needs too. Recovery is a long journey that needs expert help, not willpower alone. See counselling.