My spouse will not admit to having an addiction problem. How should I act?

Denial is a common part of addiction, so do not make an admission a condition before you act. Avoid arguing about the label ‘addicted’; instead, focus on the real effects, for example: ‘I am worried; this month's money is already gone, and every night you go to bed late.’ Choose a time when they are calm, not right after a quarrel. Offer to look for help together so they do not feel attacked. If they still refuse, you can still get counselling for yourself and set boundaries. Change often begins when the consequences are truly felt. See counselling.