🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #215

My in-laws are clearly biased and love another daughter-in-law more. How do I manage my feelings?

You cannot control your in-laws' hearts, but you can guard your own heart from being eaten up by resentment. Favouritism does hurt, but responding by sulking or competing only exhausts you. Base your self-worth on Allah's pleasure and your own character, not on your in-laws' recognition. Keep doing good to them without expecting an equal return; kindness without conditions is more peaceful. Avoid backbiting or making comparisons in front of others. Share your feelings with your husband so he understands and supports you. Pray for a generous heart for yourself. In time, sincerity is usually remembered, even if it is slow to be appreciated. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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