🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #84

My family helps me a lot as a single mother, but I feel I have lost control over my children's upbringing. What should I do?

Appreciate your family's help while kindly making clear that the main decisions about your children remain in your hands as their mother. Help that comes with too much interference can confuse children about who is in charge. Thank them sincerely, then state the important rules you want followed, such as bedtimes, food or ways of disciplining. Choose the issues that truly matter to stand firm on, and give way on the small ones. Discuss it privately, not in front of the children. Cooperation that respects your role benefits everyone. See family & relatives.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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