🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #78

The burden of being a single mother is so heavy that at times I feel I cannot go on living. What should I do?

These feelings are a sign that you need help urgently, not a sign that you are a failed mother; your life is very precious. If you feel in danger or are thinking of harming yourself, call the police on 999 immediately. Also call Talian Kasih 15999 for support, at any time. Tell someone you trust today so you do not carry this alone. See a doctor or counsellor as soon as possible, because this condition can be treated. Ask family to help look after the children while you recover. Asking for help is the strongest step you can take. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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