🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #82

I am a single mother who has to work, and I feel guilty leaving my children all day. What should I do?

Working to support your children is a noble responsibility, not neglect; you are striving for them. Choose a safe and loving childcare arrangement so your heart is calmer while you work. Make the time after work truly your children's: put your phone away and listen to their stories. The quality of attention in a short time often outweighs a large amount of scattered time. Tell older children why you work so they understand the sacrifice. Look after your energy so your time with them is not filled with tired anger. Let go of guilt that has no basis. See single mothers.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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