🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #187

We have to share a house with my co-wife for a while. How do we keep the peace?

Sharing a house requires clear boundaries and a high degree of respect so that each wife's private space is protected. Agree on how space is divided, turns for the kitchen and bathroom, and time for the husband to be with each wife without interruption. Avoid entering your co-wife's private space without permission, and do not make the kitchen a battleground. Discuss problems directly and calmly, not through sarcasm or a third party. If cramped conditions add to the tension, ask your husband to consider a more suitable arrangement. For rulings on separate accommodation, consult the religious affairs office, because every family's situation is different. See co-wife relations.

← PreviousHow do I teach my children to respect my co-wife properly?Next →My co-wife has just had a baby. Should I congratulate her even though my feelings are mixed?

Related questions

We want to hold a kenduri (family feast) involving both households. How do we avoid tension?Arrange the kenduri as one big family, not two separate groups, so the children do not split into two camps. Discu…How do I teach my children to respect my co-wife properly?The most effective way is through your own example: when children see you speak politely about your co-wife, they learn to r…Family and neighbours like to compare me with my co-wife. How do I deal with it?Other people’s comparisons say more about their ignorance than about your true worth. You are not obliged to respond o…My co-wife likes to tell me at length about her private matters with our husband. How do I set boundaries?You have the right to set boundaries gently when such sharing adds to your burden or touches on matters that should stay priv…I want to get on well with my co-wife but am afraid of looking fake. What should I do?Getting on well does not mean pretending to be close; it starts with not hurting each other, then grows honestly ov…What privacy boundaries should be kept between my home and my co-wife's?Each home is entitled to its own privacy; what happens in one home is not material for stories in the other. Avoid …

This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

Comments or feedback

Read only by the MYPolygyny administrator — never published.

About Us · Ask · Site Map · Privacy · Editorial policy · Disclaimer