🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #232

After a long illness and surgery, we are finding it hard to become close again. What should we do?

Becoming close again after a long period of illness takes time, gentleness and small steps, not rushing back to how things were. Get confirmation from the doctor that your condition now allows it, and ask what needs to be taken care of. Begin with affection that places no burden: sitting close, holding hands, talking about how each of you feels. The one who has just recovered may be anxious about their body or pain; reassure them patiently without pressure. Appreciate every small step forward and do not compare with how things were before the illness. If there are ongoing health concerns, see the doctor again. See intimacy etiquette.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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