When I am angry, I blurt out 'just marry someone else if you're not happy'. How do I stop this habit?

Words said in anger can leave lasting scars even if you do not mean them; threatening with polygyny or divorce destroys trust. Recognise that the tongue is sharpest when the heart is heated, so train yourself to stop before speaking. Take wudu, stay silent, or leave the room for a while until it passes. Replace threats with expressing what you really feel, for example ‘I feel hurt’. If you have already gone too far, apologise quickly and explain that you did not mean it. A home free of threats feels calmer and easier to love. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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